A colleague once asked me how my priorities changed from being single to being a wife and a mother. A lot, I told her. One year after graduation in college, I was already working then, I had to make a decision to become a wife. So you see, I never had opportunities of going to bars, dating till the break of dawn, partying till your feet hurt.
I had a child when I was 23, and that changed my priorities fast. I stopped working, had to take care of the child until I went back to work on the son’s 2nd year. I made myself busy, for the kid and the husband. I went to working till night, doing overtime work because we do not ask from the husband’s parents nor from mine. We lived basically not dependent on what the parents would give us, but managed to slowly build up the family on our own. From milk to diapers, vitamins and doctor visits, we raised the kid on our own. The MIL may have had contributed cans of milk on her grocery days, but that’s just about it, and we are thankful.
The kid was in school at 4 years old and by then, I decided I’d go to law school while doing work in the daytime, reached my second year until I got pregnant with a daughter. I stopped studying on my third trimester as I was on the second semester of my second year in law school and never had a chance to go back until now, because I just started with my career.
Priorities change when you experience things that need realizations and a motion. Some people tend to carry out their priorities wrongly, that is the reason why they fail. But priorities, aside from me and the husband rearing the kids well and good, we have also carried out our own relationship. we have noticed that we sometimes need to go out alone together, with no kids tagging along, to bond with each other.
Our priorities dance with what life brings us. We may dance with life’s temptations and change the priorities we have set. Or we may choose to dance with what we really want, and rise up each time we fall.
Parenting is a priority, so much so with being a wife. But my foremost priority is the children’s welfare, more than all the riches this world can offer. My children is the source of my JOY and STRENGTH, a feeling just like all the mothers in the world feel.