I have faults, I am not a perfect mother.
Last Friday, that very last day of the first week of the year, my daughter was prepping up for school when we noticed that it was close to her schooltime and she has not finished eating her breakfast yet. She has not even took a shower and she was agitated because we kept on prodding her to hit the shower, or finish her meal, and she is still doing her assignment which was given to them before the long Christmas break. Counting back, that’s almost 3 weeks of no school and she has to do her assignment on a schoolday because she ignored our reminders to her for making assignments during the Christmas break.
I have hypertension, and that time, it was sort of high that I didn’t want to be bothered by her. If I could have taken that instant seriously, my mouth would have been nagging nonstop. So the husband took care of her. Had her go to the shower room, finish her meals and dress up for school, while I was laughing real hard with the husband because it was a first that he has to nag in keeping the daughter finish everything else. The daughter was then crying that time because we were angry at her already and yet, the dad kept on warning her that if she doesn’t finish everything, no one will bring her to school because the service who fetches them are already outside the house waiting for her.
So fast forward, she went to school with her plate not eaten half-full, without toothbrush and without a proper shower.
When she returned home in the afternoon, clearly, she’s not talking to us. She remembers me laughing at her before she went to school.
And so I talked to her, explained everything. I told her what the cause of our anger was, and why I was laughing at her that time. So she understood, and I was able to tell her that the next time this happens again, we will not send her to school. I have an obedient daughter, and so she was trying to finish up assignments now that it is the weekend, and not waiting for deadlines to beat her up.
An open communication is what one needs to understand each other. There may be some reason for not understanding it earlier but it all boils down to a good conversation for one to understand each other.